Services

Premarital Counselling

Prepare for the Marriage, Not Just the Wedding

A beautiful wedding is important, but a strong marriage needs more than a well-planned ceremony. Premarital counselling gives couples a safe, guided, and intentional space to prepare for the realities of married life before they say, “I do.”

At Intentional Therapy & Counselling Services, we help couples build a strong foundation for marriage through honest conversations, practical tools, emotional preparation, and professional support. Our process is warm, structured, evidence-informed, and faith-sensitive where requested.

An engaged couple going through the Vows & Values workbook together

Guided by our signature workbook, Vows & Values

  • Meaningful conversations before marriage on communication, conflict, and family background
  • Finances, values, and faith
  • Emotional connection, intimacy, parenting, and shared goals
See the Workbook

Who Premarital Counselling Is For

Premarital counselling is for couples who are dating seriously, engaged, preparing for marriage, or considering a long-term commitment. It is not only for couples with problems — it is for couples who value preparation, honesty, and intentional love. It is helpful for couples who:

Want to understand each other more deeply before marriage

Desire stronger communication and conflict-resolution skills

Want to discuss expectations before making a lifelong commitment

Are preparing for a wedding and want to prepare for the marriage too

Come from different family, cultural, spiritual, or financial backgrounds

Want support discussing sensitive topics in a safe environment

Need help clarifying values, roles, goals, and future plans

Want faith-sensitive preparation alongside professional counselling

What Happens in Premarital Counselling

Premarital counselling begins by understanding your relationship story, your hopes for marriage, and the areas you want to strengthen before your wedding. The process may include:

A joint intake session with both partners

Guided conversations using the Vows & Values workbook

Exploration of your relationship history and family background

Assessment of communication, conflict, values, trust, and expectations

Practical exercises to improve listening and understanding

Conversations around finances, faith, intimacy, parenting, and future goals

Support in identifying strengths and areas of growth

Homework or reflection exercises between sessions

Our Approach

Using the Vows & Values workbook, couples are guided through intentional conversations that help them understand not only what they love about each other, but also how they will handle real-life marriage issues such as conflict, money, family expectations, and shared responsibility. Where requested, faith-sensitive support can be included in a respectful and professional way.

Build emotional safety

Understand each partner's background and expectations

Strengthen friendship and connection

Learn healthy conflict management

Discuss difficult topics before marriage

Build trust and transparency

Expected Outcomes

Premarital counselling does not promise a perfect marriage. Instead, it helps couples develop the awareness, skills, and conversations needed for a healthier marriage. Couples may leave the process with:

Better understanding of each other

Stronger communication skills

Clearer expectations for marriage

Shared values and goals

Increased confidence about the decision to marry

A completed Vows & Values workbook to use as an ongoing relationship resource

Recommended Session Length

Premarital counselling can be offered as a structured package or as individual sessions depending on the couple's needs. A standard premarital session is usually 2 hours.

A full premarital counselling journey may include up to 10 sessions, depending on the depth of preparation required, the couple's timeline, and whether there are complex issues that need more attention. Extended sessions or premarital intensives may also be available for couples with limited time before the wedding.

How to Book

  1. Visit the Contact or Book a Session page.
  2. Share your names, wedding or intended marriage timeline, and preferred session format.
  3. Our team will guide you on available appointment times.
  4. You will receive information on fees, confidentiality, consent, and the counselling process.
  5. Attend your first session and begin preparing intentionally for marriage using the Vows & Values workbook.

Sessions may be available in person at KMA Centre, Upper Hill, Nairobi, or online where suitable.

Before you say “I do”

Premarital counselling gives you space to pause, ask important questions, strengthen your bond, and prepare not only for the wedding day, but for the life you are building together.

Book a Premarital Counselling Session